You’ve done the work.
You’ve read the books.
You’ve listened to the podcasts.
You know your reactive patterns come from protection…
So why does it still feel like you’re not shifting?
Here’s what most people don’t realize:
When you try to shift a reactive pattern,
your mind and nervous system often push back—subtly.
Not with dramatic resistance, but with thoughts like:
🌀 “This is too hard. I must be doing it wrong.”
🌀 “Why should I have to give this to myself? I want to get it from others.”
🌀 “I already know this”—even though you’re not embodying it yet
These aren’t signs that something’s wrong with you.
They’re signs that you’re brushing up against real change.
And I know you can have the shifts you long for.
But part of getting there is learning to recognize the quiet games your mind will play when it’s afraid to let go of old protection.
In this episode, I walk you through three common obstacles that show up when you’re trying to shift a reactive pattern—
and how to meet each one with curiosity, care, and clarity.
Listen to ep 139 on 3 common obstacles when shifting reactive patterns (and how to get past them):
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