If you’ve listened to my episodes on reactive relationship patterns and how to heal them at the core, you’ve realized that there’s some work to do in between the activating moments.
But what do you do while the trigger is happening? If you don’t want to go into old loops or screaming matches and add confusion, hurt, and blame?
It’s easy to expect from yourself that once you know that these are old reactions – you should be able not to do them. I mean, wouldn’t that be great?? “Oh, this is a reaction from a protection mechanism I adapted growing up. Then I’ll just stop doing it!” Done.
It’s kind of what we wish for right? Mind over matter kind of thing. But unfortunately AND fortunately this is not how your human works.
Why?
👉 Because your unconscious mind always trumps your thinking mind.
👉 Because there’s a reason these protection mechanisms are there that haven’t been met with yet.
👉 Because you’re being invited into a much greater love story with your human self than just fixing an issue.
So instead of trying to fix these reactions from another protector part that is actually keeping them in place – how about we do something that will actually work?
In this week’s podcast episode I walk you through three things you can do while in the middle of a trigger. You’ll also understand the three capacity levels to do things differently during a trigger and how you’ll move up the ladder as you practice.
Listen to ep 134 on 3 things to do when triggered in relationships:
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