We often have this idea that healing means we’re NOT having conflict. That the lack of conflict is a sign of a successful relationship or life. When we actually need to get more comfortable BEING in and moving through conflict in a way that heals and has us grow.
If you’re avoiding conflict (scared of how it will make you feel) or creating conflict (a survival response that has kept you safe) – you need to learn how conflict can open doors to more intimacy and connection.
Friction is here to open doors. To reflect where there’s fear or shame in you, your partner or in the channel between you. When that fear or shame is alchemized…. guess what? More freedom and openness. A deeper connection and more love.
So if you keep avoiding conflict, or get stuck in the surface layers of it, you’re missing out on the intimacy you long for.
In this episode, I invite you to discover the gift of friction and how to feel safe moving through it in a way that heals.
