Let’s play. I want you to have the money needed to invest in what matters - your growth, healing and the life you want to live. Not just utilities, the musts and shoulds, and the distractions. Without knowing it, you’re probably standing in your own way of that.
If you’re constantly looking for problems to fix - that’s what you’re handed. If you keep trying to fix yourself and taking things apart - that’s what you’ll get good at.
Maybe you got used to managing on your own - but how will you open up to receive? Maybe all you long for is loving attention - but the way you learned to receive it is by feeling miserable.
Building the new house is: Practice embodying what you want more of in your life. If you want more love - are you treating all of yourself in a loving way?
If you want to take back personal power, feel more like yourself around others, and create deeper intimacy…
When you keep thinking and speaking from lack - from everything that shouldn’t be here - you’re training your brain to pay extra attention to it and therefore experience more of what you don’t want. Whoops.
When we’ve learned to doubt what we want and feel stuck in not having our needs met (and constantly being pulled back into a core wound when it isn’t) - we’re more likely to feel stuck in an inner conflict of what we want and if it’s reasonable to ask for it.
When we exile aspects of ourselves we also exile certain emotions. When we shut ourselves off from having certain emotions - we disconnect from a crucial part of ourselves: Our wantings.
To start meeting your emotional needs your sense of identification, or your assemblage point, needs to shift. Trying to meet them from within the old identification will be like trying to get warm with a cold bath. Or asking your five-year-old to fix the car engine.
The possibility for suffering is right here, inside of you, and so is the possibility for joy, healing, and ease.
I know you can have the shifts you long for - and that an important piece to getting there is being prepared for the game your mind will play.
How do you share yourself with another person, if it feels like a potential threat to do so? How do you create emotional intimacy (which will lead to deeper physical intimacy) if you’re afraid of wounds being touched?