How to get out of questioning yourself around others

Remember how we talked about the tendency to question and reject our wantings, in last week’s episode? With the consequence that we can’t really feel a sense of self and who we are, and instead try to live by rules and make the “right choice”.

Now, let’s look at an example of how this can play out in relationships. When we’ve learned to doubt what we want and feel stuck in not having our needs met (and constantly being pulled back into a core wound when it isn’t) – we’re more likely to feel stuck in an inner conflict of what we want and if it’s reasonable to ask for it.

In this episode, we check back in with Wey who I coached live on the podcast last fall. She’s discovering a part of herself who wants to be treated and loved in a certain way, and how she’s not getting that in her current relationship.

At the same time, she has another part that really wants to be with the person she’s with.

How will she know when it’s “just a wound” talking? And which one of the parts is “right”?