I read an Instagram post the other week, by David Bedrick, that said: “The true tragedy of unhealed trauma and abuse is not the pain, patterns and terrors. It’s that you don’t become YOU.”
This is beautifully put and not only true for unhealed trauma – it’s true for a lot of the conditioning that stems from fear. (“I have to be pleasant and accommodating, or else no one will love and appreciate me and I’ll die alone”, “I push people away so I won’t get hurt”)
When we learn to believe the lie that we need to be a certain way to be loved, appreciated and safe, we start to exile aspects of ourselves that don’t fit the image. When we exile aspects of ourselves we also exile certain emotions. When we shut ourselves off from having certain emotions – we disconnect from a crucial part of ourselves: Our wantings.
This is exactly why my 5-month program Being Me teaches you to feel your wantings. Because your wantings are how life wants to express through you.
They are not so much a choice. They are desires that nudge you to walk your unique path. When we’re not so busy making our desires mean anything (I’m a bad bad person for wanting this) and instead find ourselves as the ones listening to them – that’s when you start to feel at home in your own life again.
In this week’s podcast episode, I talk about who you haven’t allowed yourself to become when you’ve been identified with your wounds and protection mechanisms. And that it’s not too late to open the doors to all your different expressions.
Join the waitlist for Being Me – the next round starts in August.
Listen to ep 142 on How your reactive patterns keep you from becoming YOU:
Check out these related episodes:
Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds
Ep116: What I want – from integrity or ego?
Ep73: Do I follow every desire?
