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When your negative thinking and self judgments sabotage your passion

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When your negative thinking and self judgments sabotage your passion

23 June 2020

 

Join Barney Glanvill and I in a conversation on how to transform the critical inner voices that keep you from expressing your work of art, whatever it might be. For Barney it was music, for me it was dancing. We talk about how big passions and interests early in life can become painful later when we build an identity around them, particularly when it gets hijacked by the idea of perfection.

When we are kids we express what we feel like in the moment, without no thought of what it will look like or who will like it. It just flows out of us. Through moving, running, jumping, dancing, screaming, singing, grimacing, crying, whispering.

With time we are taught that some of these expressions are preferred over others, and we might get punished or encouraged to develop certain traits or behaviours. If you grow up in an abusive or very fearful environment the freedom of expression will probably quite early get held back and the child become aware and watchful.

Some might have a particular passion for a certain kind of expression. Running, painting, taking things apart, dancing or playing music. In the teenage years it’s common that this passion becomes a means for finding identity. To get appreciation, praise or to stand out, being unique. The expression of painting has become the identity of the painter. Inevitably our passion is now connected with our self worth and the inner judge start assessing how well we are performing and expressing. From the joy of expressing, creating and learning we are now in the hands of proving and improving, and our inner victim believe the story that we never is good enough.

This is the story of a past version of me, growing up and facing burnout physically and mentally at 22. And the story of many others. In this video I have a conversation with Barney Glanvill who has done the Self Mastery Work for some years now. He just released music again after finding the root to some of his unworthiness stories and being able to change them at the root.

We talk about how his inner judge told him it was no use to release music and share it with others unless he was a Beethoven. How this cut him off from the expression of music that used to be an outlet and making him feel good. The expression of playing music was hijacked by the critical voices and just created more pain.

Barney got to the root of a painful memory and was able to let the emotions around it out, collapsing a big structure of unconscious beliefs that was driving his thoughts and emotions.

Watch the video above to hear the whole story and how Barney is feeling today.

And listen to the newly released track that Barney mentions in the interview:

 

Barney is also the Community Manager in the Self Mastery Community. It was launched in April 2020 and already has 1000 members. We haven’t even had time to start talking about it, but you will hear lots more about it. It’s a big dream and a vision that is taking flight.

A place for people motivated to change their inner world of thoughts, emotions and behaviours and gives them the skills to do so on their own, with great support. Conversations, connections, free practices and deeper online trainings on our own community platform dedicated to greater self awareness and more freedom.

It’s free to join and there are free introduction trainings to get started with today. If you’re curious, or already know that you want to change some of your own outdated patterns, I’d love to see you there!

>> Go check it our here

 

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