Jealousy in your intimate relationship is one of the most intense experiences and is often challenging to navigate because of that. At the first level, the jealous pattern points the finger at “the other”: “Why were you gone so long?”, “Who are you texting with?”
If you grow self-awareness you come to the uncomfortable truth that you’re the one reacting and feeling from unconscious beliefs. You start to see that blaming the other is a way to deflect from your own sense of insecurity.
But what usually happens with that insight is that you add layers of judgment: “OMG I’m doing it again, I thought this was healed” or “I’m the one ruining the relationship with my suspicion and reactions”
Because no one told you what to do with the information that it’s YOU. Meaning, now that you know – how do you actually shift it?
On top of that, this new-found layer of self-awareness completely bypasses the fact that the other person might be doing something that doesn’t feel good to you. But how do you communicate that while you’re having a big reaction? How can you trust your own intuition and instincts when you’re activated and in survival state?
In episode two of the series about reactions in our relationships, we take a close look at jealousy. Understand how you can follow the thread of jealousy back down into an emotional wound – and how to finally heal it at the root.
