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“Is it me or them?”


“Is it me or them?”

25 January 2024

Ever found yourself in a situation where you have a strong reaction and you’re not sure if it’s you or them? 

Maybe your partner is connecting with someone and you feel that familiar pang of jealousy. A part of you wants to feel completely okay with what’s happening, trust the person you love, and give them as much freedom as they need. Another part wants them to wave you over, put their arm around you, and show the person they’re talking to that you’re their number one. Yet another part wants to punch your partner in the face for making you feel this vulnerable, alone, and insecure. 

Or, you want to get the hell out of there, punish them with your silence for the coming 3 days until they understand what a terrible thing they’ve done.

In this episode, we look at how to know when it’s you and when it’s them. 

Hint: it’s usually both.

By shaming yourself for what you’re feeling – you’ll just keep the wound intact. By blaming someone else for what you’re feeling – you’ll do the same.

Listen to ep 130 to understand how to process what you’re feeling first so that you can navigate the external situation with more clarity:

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