It’s easy to reject and judge your people-pleasing tendencies when you become aware of them – and see how they are causing you to override what you want and need.
What we often miss with this pattern is that going along with other people is a protection mechanism. If you’re trying to override it you’ll probably signal danger to your internal system. Until you get to the layers underneath.
Did you know these four surprising facts about people-pleasing?
👉 It’s a protection mechanism that gets activated automatically to keep you safe
(your will stands little chance to do something differently in the moment of activation)
👉 While we find it self-denying or destructive, it’s actually self-centered
(you do things you think others want you to do – to look out for yourself)
👉 Telling white lies can be a form of people-pleasing
(you say the thing that will please others, to avoid their anger or judgment)
👉 Trying to override it to say NO, speak what you want, or tell the truth about how you feel can feel impossible and leave you highly uncomfortable and short of words
Instead of trying to manage it and treat the symptom – how do you get to the linchpin that moves the whole structure and have you access a NO from love? So that you can feel what YOU want and need and communicate it to others?
Listen to this week’s podcast episode to find out.
In it, you’ll meet Karen. A few weeks back I guided her through a process where we applied the four pillars of embodied self mastery. In just 15 minutes she was able to feel all the layers of this pattern and get to the core wound. The next day she said a no she hadn’t been able to before.
Tune in to understand what embodied healing sounds and feels like, so that you can apply it on your own reactive patterns and protection mechanisms. People-pleasing or other!
Listen to ep 135 on From people-pleasing to saying NO from love:
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