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How do you continue doing the inner work and honor your desire to share your feelings with your partner or loved one - when they don’t want to?

Use of attachment theory in the relationship or dating scene is becoming more popular - so are the misconceptions and conceptualizations that pull us away from the actual experience in our bodies.

When you live your life from a conditioned idea of right or wrong - the mind judges what’s happening as good or bad, and you react compulsively to it. On top of that, the ego mind is convinced it’s in charge of keeping you safe, figuring things out, and finding the right path to your healed, amazing life and relationship.

Most of us have trauma. Unprocessed emotional wounds. They show up in our relationships to BE processed, but they will look like a big problem unless we’re aware and have the tools to meet them.

I answer a question from a listener who easily feels abandoned. The relationship she is in easily inflames that wound, and she wonders, “What is valid to be upset about?”

All the emotions you’ve been suppressing, the pain or grief when you thought you were okay, the desires and boundaries you needed to disconnect with to stay safe, the rage you never allowed yourself to feel - are now here to be embraced by your loving arms.

Are you the only one who should do all the healing and changing - or could you expect a little willingness to work on the relationship from them?

If you’ve ever been made wrong for what you’re feeling, felt like too much, or been told that you’re overreacting - by someone else or a voice in your head - this episode is for you.

After years of conditioning, it’s easy to question our compass on when to stay and when to leave in a relationship.

“How do I let go, while giving love and attention to the part of me that can’t accept that it’s over?”

Most of us fear or check out from the most painful experiences in relating like divorce, losing a loved one, and having your heart broken. But what if those experiences push us into a wound wanting to be healed?

When you go from looking at your relationship patterns as something wrong or “not healed yet”, to realizing them as the journey you’re here to take, everything changes.