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I answer a question from a listener who easily feels abandoned. The relationship she is in easily inflames that wound, and she wonders, “What is valid to be upset about?”

All the emotions you’ve been suppressing, the pain or grief when you thought you were okay, the desires and boundaries you needed to disconnect with to stay safe, the rage you never allowed yourself to feel - are now here to be embraced by your loving arms.

Are you the only one who should do all the healing and changing - or could you expect a little willingness to work on the relationship from them?

If you’ve ever been made wrong for what you’re feeling, felt like too much, or been told that you’re overreacting - by someone else or a voice in your head - this episode is for you.

After years of conditioning, it’s easy to question our compass on when to stay and when to leave in a relationship.

“How do I let go, while giving love and attention to the part of me that can’t accept that it’s over?”

Most of us fear or check out from the most painful experiences in relating like divorce, losing a loved one, and having your heart broken. But what if those experiences push us into a wound wanting to be healed?

When you go from looking at your relationship patterns as something wrong or “not healed yet”, to realizing them as the journey you’re here to take, everything changes.

Ever wondered what level of honesty is helpful, kind or required? Should we say everything on our mind or is it more loving not to? And what about when we hide behind honesty to offload on our partner or give our reactions a free pass?

Instead of trying to do MORE, burn out and give up - how about we focus on what will create real embodied shifts?

Let’s play. I want you to have the money needed to invest in what matters - your growth, healing and the life you want to live. Not just utilities, the musts and shoulds, and the distractions. Without knowing it, you’re probably standing in your own way of that.

If you’re constantly looking for problems to fix - that’s what you’re handed. If you keep trying to fix yourself and taking things apart - that’s what you’ll get good at.