Some contents or functionalities here are not available due to your cookie preferences!

This happens because the functionality/content marked as “Facebook Pixel [noscript]” uses cookies that you choosed to keep disabled. In order to view this content or use this functionality, please enable cookies: click here to open your cookie preferences.

Reading:
3 things to do when you’re in a relationship trigger

Image

3 things to do when you’re in a relationship trigger

06 March 2024

If you’ve been learning about reactive relationship patterns from me and how to heal them at the core, you already know: There’s work to be done between the activating moments.

But what about when you’re in it? When your chest tightens, your voice rises (or disappears), and your mind is racing? What do you actually do while the trigger is happening—if you don’t want to loop back into blaming, shutting down, or saying something you’ll later regret?

Most of us assume that once we have the awareness—
“This is a pattern.”
“This comes from a wound.”
“This is just my protection mechanism at play”—
…we should be able to stop it.

As if you could just think your way out of a full-body response.

Wouldn’t that be great?

But that’s not how your nervous system works.
And—fortunately—that’s not how your healing works either.

Why?

👉 Because your unconscious mind always overrides your thinking mind
👉 Because these protection mechanisms exist for a reason—they were trying to keep you safe
👉 Because every trigger is actually an invitation into deeper self-leadership and love

The work isn’t to bypass the reaction.
It’s to learn how to meet it—with presence, skill, and compassion.

In this episode, I walk you through three things you can actually do in the moment, while the trigger is happening. You’ll also learn about the three capacity levels of nervous system leadership—and how to move up the ladder over time.

Listen to ep 134 on 3 things to do when triggered in relationships:

Subscribe to the Uncover YOU podcast

Related Stories

29 September 2021

The true rebellion against conditioning

What always got me to sit down and go within was the thought that meditation is a rebellious act. An anti-dote to a program of thoughts and beliefs running me. This is how it works and how you can rebel as well.

30 March 2022

How my mind got on board with accessing consciousness

I started mapping what I was doing and how when I had the experience of myself as consciousness and I realized something huge: We can methodically fine tune the instrument of our perception to become aware of ourself as consciousness.

09 December 2020
Arrow-up

On this website we use first or third-party tools that store small files (cookie) on your device. Cookies are normally used to allow the site to run properly (technical cookies), to generate navigation usage reports (statistics cookies) and to suitable advertise our services/products (profiling cookies). We can directly use technical cookies, but you have the right to choose whether or not to enable statistical and profiling cookies. Enabling these cookies, you help us to offer you a better experience. Cookie policy

Some contents or functionalities here are not available due to your cookie preferences!

This happens because the functionality/content marked as “%SERVICE_NAME%” uses cookies that you choosed to keep disabled. In order to view this content or use this functionality, please enable cookies: click here to open your cookie preferences.