Most of us are stuck in the surface layers of our reactions in relationships.
The anger.
The withdrawal.
The blame.
The hyper-vigilance.
The feeling of being the victim—or the one who’s “too much.”
These surface patterns get all the attention…
But they’re not where the healing happens.
To shift a dynamic at the root, you have to get underneath the immediate reaction.
That’s where you find the wound.
That’s where you gain choice.
That’s where you stop repeating the same cycle.
In this episode, I walk you through one of my own recent triggers—layer by layer.
You’ll hear what was happening under the surface, how I stayed with myself, and what changed as a result.
🎧 Listen now to learn how to move through your own reactions and get to the layer where true healing begins:
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